Sunday, February 22, 2015

ANOTHER Update...on a previous post. Six Father figures, Three Mothers, One Family…

FIRST POSTED ON 9th August 2013....
It’s funny how families evolve. 
Try doing a family tree with six father figures and three mothers. 

Ok, one set are in laws. So that’s easy. Still…

I haven’t really been careless, but I have lost four ‘fathers’, misplaced one and I am keeping tabs on another. I have more luck with mothers. My mother in law, now ninety two,(93) but doesn’t know it, is doing well. My adopted mother and birth mother are both thriving.

Lost: Four fathers, who have left their legacy of laughter and love. Losing my adopted father and father in law in the same year taught us about grief, but the memories that remain are of happy times.

My adopted Mum remarried and introduced a wonderful ‘Grandpa’ into the lives of my children. They grew up with his love surrounding them. We are all richer for having known him and been blessed with his love. He passed away the day after his eightieth birthday. 

My ‘bonus’ family arrived via a letter from the Salvation Army. Discovering my birth mother, half sisters and their family is another story in itself… During a trip south to meet the family I was lucky to get to know and grow to love my birth mother’s husband. Sadly he passed away shortly after we met. Those few days were precious and a godsend. 

Misplaced: There hasn’t been a moment that seemed quite appropriate to ask my birth mother about my birth father… so he is still a mystery. Not lost, just misplaced. Perhaps one day I will learn more about who he was. 
UPDATE: I have spoken to my birth mother about my birth father. I have a name but am still to go through the process of searching for him. I am told though that he was at times, a stage hypnotist. So, there you go. Another sliver of information regarding one of my 'dads'. 
May 2015...
I have met and been in contact with my birth father. He is all I could ask for, kind, considerate, intelligent and a perfect gentleman. I am so thrilled to have him as part of my life. 
Exciting news. I have found my birth father, and we now keep in touch. I have also discovered a half brother and two sisters. So, it's been a great year already. 
Keeping track of: At the sprightly age of eighty six Mum remarried a young doctor eighty five years old. He is doing well. I care for Mum, while an aged care facility take good care of this ‘father’ for me!
UPDATE: Mum has turned 90 and is fine health. Her dear husband though is not so well. Mum now resides in the same aged care facility and they spend most of their time in each other's company. They cherish the four years they have shared.

Sadly my step father died last Saturday. He was laid to rest on Thursday, only days before his 91st birthday. 

 Rosalie Skinner, 
  author of 
The Chronicles of Caleath 

Hunted by alien assassins, haunted by ghosts,  homesick for a planet light-years away, Caleath’s quest is to survive and escape.


ediFanoB said...

What a big family!

Except my mother all parents and grandparents are dead.

I have had one father, four grandfathers and two grandmothers.

After the divorce of my parents all relatives from my father's side refused any contact to me and my sisters.

So my opinion about relatives is not the best.

Rosalie Skinner said...

Goes to show every family has its own compelling history.